Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Twin Tuesday V

My Twin Baby Shower

This will be the last blog before I have my twins (tomorrow!!!!).  It's been quite an adventure and I'm amazed (as are the doctors and nurses) that I've made it to 38 weeks!  Now I'm (ironically) scheduled for an induction on 12-12-12.  After all the contractions, preterm labor, and trips to the hospital the boys are deciding to stay in a little longer on their own. Oh my, are they going to be trouble when they arrive!

Before I hit preterm labor and bedrest (the Saturday before), two amazing friends and my mom threw me my twin baby shower.  I pinned a ton of ideas on pinterest beforehand and they took a peek to get ideas there.

Upon arrival, my friends self addressed envelopes for my Thank You notes I'd send just a few days after the shower.  (Thank you for doing this!  Saved me lots of time!)  Then they headed to the main room where they deposited baby pictures of themselves for a game we'd be playing once everyone arrived.

We chatted over delicious refreshments and when all had arrived we played the Baby Guess Who Game.  The winner got a prize (Double Mint Gum or another wonderful gift provided by my wonderful hostesses!).

After that we played Twin Jeopardy.  My friend, Sarah, did a wonderful job with this game.  There were 4 fun categories: Food Pairs, Famous Twins, Little Known Facts, and Our Twins.  We used some of the fun facts from my first Twin Tuesday post.  This game was a huge hit!  Way fun!  We all ended up tying, but you could have prizes for the team that wins.

More refreshements while I opened way too cute gifts.  We asked everyone to bring a pack of diapers and/or a freezer meal.  This is a big help!  Of course, we loved getting cute matching/coordinating outfits and blankets as well!  Some generous friends/family members gave us gift cards to our favorite restaurants as well.

Our last activity was decorating monthly onsies for the boys.  Two pairs for each month.  Some match some don't, but we used coordinating fabric (left over from their nursery fabric...bumpers and drapes).  My plan is to take pictures of them in their onsies every month.  These turned out super cute!  And were pretty easy to make! (For each set you need: 3x 0-3 month onsies, 3x 3-6 months, 6x6-12 month onsies...that's how they came packaged...two-sided iron on adhesive, fabric, stencils or printouts, irons, and ironing boards) We had some cutting out circles and numbers out of the fabric and adhesive (some was pre-cut), some girlfriends ironed on the numbers to the circles, some ironed on the numbered circles to the onsies, others repackaged them for me into ziplock bags.  This activity took the longest...it may be a good one to start with while you wait for others to arrive at the beginning.

Altogether, the shower was a blast!  I'm so grateful to have such wonderful friends and a great mom who helped with the decorating.

Other activities I'd suggest if you're short on ideas:

Photo booth
4 other fabulous ideas!  *my favorite is the late night diaper notes

Thursday, December 6, 2012

Christmas Traditions

Everyone love traditions, right?  And Christmas time seems to be the one holiday full of them.  Feel free to comment some awesome traditions your family does each year.  Here are some of ours:

1.  Every year my mom makes a Christmas ornament that symbolizes what the most important event was that year (baby's birth, moving, a family vacation...).  She's done this since I was 3.  She made ten to a dozen of the ornaments so that when each child got married they took 2 of each set with them (it was her bridal shower gift to me, and I loved it!  She even typed up a description of each ornament and what meaning was behind it).  She still makes ornaments every year, so I chose to make ornaments for my family to hand down to my kids of really big events in our lives.  I made one set the first year we were married, when each of our kids were born, and when we bought our first house.  This way your kiddos won't have a bare tree their first Christmas on their own.

2.  Advent Calendar or Leighs.  Wish I had a picture.  Each day my kiddos (and my husband and I) get a piece of candy and a piece of paper with a Christmas activity listed on it to accomplish that day(wear jingle bells on your shoelaces, call your Grandma and sing a Christmas song, Ding dong ditch a plate of goodies...).

3. We give one gift to each of us Christmas Eve.  It's usually the classic pajamas.  But I've added a new children's book for each of our kiddos to go with the PJs.  We read each one before they go to bed Christmas Eve.

4.  Read stories of Jesus each night of December.  We try to stay focused on the reason for the season.  Especially now that our kids are getting older.

5. Build a snowman and/or go sledding if there's snow.  The first day it snows for the winter season we buy powdered donuts and have them for dessert that night.  Then the next day we try to go play in the snow as a family.

6.  We give eachother only 3 gifts Christmas day.  The wisemen brought Jesus 3 gifts and as a reminder each of us only get 3 gifts.

7.  Christmas Eve we drive around to look at the lights with hot cocoa while we listen to Christmas music.  (We give the kiddos sturdy sippy cups while in the car)

8.  We make treats and take them to our friends and neighbors.  Sometimes we ding dong ditch them with a note like: From your neighbors or From members of your church.  This way they know it's safe to eat.

9.  We set a rule the first Christmas we had a child that we would just spend the time as our little family.  This is a hard one, but it allows us to really spend time with our kids and enjoy the day without having to drive lots.  We make sure we celebrate Christmas with our extended family on the day after or the weekend before Christmas though.

10.  One of my favorite traditions is a romantic candle light dinner with my husband after the kids go to bed Christmas Eve.  We feed the kids a Christmas tree pizza (homemade of course, cuz where would you find Christmas tree shaped pizza dough) and we save our appetite for after they go to bed.  We listen to some Bing Crosby Christmas music, light some candles, and have crablegs and lobster (our one night of the year we really splurge on a dinner for just us).  We crack open a bottle of Sparkling Cider and toast to a wonderful year and to eachother and to our beautiful children who are dreaming about tomorrow. 

We have more traditions, but these are our unique ones or my favorites.  I would love to hear what your family does each year!!!  Merry Christmas!

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Twin Tuesday IV

I posted my last Twin Tuesday yesterday (not a Tuesday, I know.  But, there was reasoning behind it).  The reason being;  Preterm Labor and Bedrest.  So this Twin Tuesday will be an Ode to Preterm Labor and Bedrest.  (Don't worry I won't break out into song or write a corney poem)

Preterm Labor started for me around 33 weeks.  Having twins, this is pretty normal even though my whole pregnancy was deemed healthy over all and the doctor did not foresee this as an issue.  Here's what happened.  I went into my regular weekly doctor visit (that's right, weekly...with twins and multiples you can expect to see your doc much more) and after getting checked, I was dilated to a 1 and 70% effaced (no I'm not going to explain what that means, I'm bashful).  Then the doctor wanted to do a NST (Non-stress test...where they hook you up to monitors to check on your babies and your contractions...pretty standard, nothing to worry about if you ever have one.  They're painless, just make sure you're in a comfy position because you'll be there for typically 20 minutes).  My contractions were coming every 2-3 minutes and taking my breath away every other contraction.  (Fact I didn't know, at the beginning you usually only feel every other contraction...who knew right?)

So, off to the hospital I went to try on a fashionable gown (not!) and get hooked up to an IV, monitors, and prepare myself for a load of meds to stop the contractions.  First, blood draw.  Second, a steroid shot to help the babies lungs develop (this is called antenatal corticosteroids and is a shot that goes right in your tooshy.  This shot is given in 2 doses, one 24 hours after the first and can be given when the gestational age is from 24 to 34 weeks).  Third, a shot called Terbutaline (this shot is given in the arm and stings...luckily my nurse put a local anethestic with it to help soothe the sting.  It's use for preterm labor is an unlabeled use of the medicine, but it helps relax the uterus and can help delay preterm labor for 24 to 48 hours, allowing the steroid shot to be administered for the babies lungs.  It makes you feel super jittery though.  My heart beat rapidly and I felt like it would jump out of my chest.  My legs and body also shook, like when you're really nervous.)  Fourth, I was given a pill to take every 3-6 hours called Nifedipine (This is a calcium blocker, it blocks calcium to the uterus which allows the uterus to relax because the uterus needs calcium to contract.  The biggest side effect of this pill was a splitting headache, but it goes away in time). Fifth, lots of fluids (in IV and orally) and no solid foods (pregnant lady of twins starving to death!  I love my food and have to eat every 3-4 hours.  Making two babies requires a lot of calories, okay?).  After all that (which occurs within a half hour or so) it's 24 hours of monitoring and going to the bathroom every 2 hours.  Seriously, all that fluid and such a tiny bladder?  Yowza!

Luckily, the contractions slowed (but haven't gone away) and I didn't have any cervical change.  I went home on bedrest.  Oh, bedrest.  What mom wouldn't want to take a break and have to lay around all day, right?  Err, WRONG.  This mama is an active one and after 2 days, trust me, you get tired of laying around all the time.  It's been 4 weeks now.  Here's what you need to know about bedrest:

1.) Have a plan!  If you anticipate bedrest at all (if you're carrying multiples, this is you), then make a list of activities or chores that you can do on bedrest.  (Example: Make an online baby book for your other kiddos or make a yearbook..shutterfly is awesome for this.  Organize photos.  Make a cd for labor when the time does come with relaxing tunes.  Write letters to your grandparents.  Blog.  Read a few books.  Have friends visit.  Watch a flick with your hubby while he rubs your back.  Learn how to knit.  Make some handmade presents or address and write birthday cards.  The ideas are endless.)

2.) Keep a journal and/or a check off list.  It will be good to one day look back at this time and see how awful it really is to have to lay around all day...especially, when we want a break and say, "gosh, it would be nice to be able to just stay in bed all day".  It's also important to feel like you're still accomplishing daily tasks.  If you're like me you like check lists.  (Paid bills: check.  Balanced checkbook: check.  Emailed: check.  Blogged: check.  Called my neighbor: check.  You get the idea.)  It helps to keep track of your days too.  Trust me, a month can go by unnoticed unless you keep some sort of record.

3.)  Accept and ask for help.  Let's face it.  You can't be on bedrest without help.  Whether you have older kids or not, someone's going to have to help with the cooking and the cleaning.  Believe it or not, your hubby can't do it all.  You are superwoman, remember?  Your husband is already busy with work and doesn't want to come home every day to take care of the stuff you normally do...sure he can do some things but he's going to get burnt out fast if he tries to do it all.  No one can replace you.  But many people can cover the things you do normally.  If you have older kids, like me, your doctor may tell you something you may feel as harsh (but it's true), "You can not be your children's primary caregiver right now."  So, grandparents, sisters, brothers, neighbors, church friends will step up and help.  You have to ask though.  This was hard for me.  My mother-in-law helps almost daily and she spends the night througout the week to help me with my kids first thing in the morning.  She brings me my meals in bed and helps me up when I need it, all while taking care of my 2 girls.  When she needs a break, I call in the troops (my family and friends).  It's important to stock up on thank you cards and little treats to hand out or mail...this is another thing you can do while laying there. 

4.)  Meal plan.  Even if you have a singleton start planning meals and prepping freezer meals in your second trimester.  So, if bedrest arrises OR after your baby is born you feel overwhelmed and tired (this happens to the best of us) your family won't starve.  Start stocking up on essentials in your pantry: easy snacks, pastas, cereals, canned soups, canned veggies, etc.  (Not a bad idea to stock up on other essentials too: toilet paper, shampoo, toothpaste, kleenex...you get the idea)  Accept meals or ask for someone to help by bringing your family a meal once a week.  You'd be surprised how many people are willing.  My baby shower was a few days before all this preterm labor stuff happened, I asked everyone to bring a package of diapers and a freezer meal.  Many people brought gift cards to restaurants (just as good if not better than a freezer meal!).  Feel free to ask the same at your shower.

5.)  Take time for your family.  Being locked up in your room all day can be pretty isolating.  Especially, when your kids and hubby spend most of their time in the living and dining room.  Make sure that you explain to them that you want time with them too.  Play a game of Candy Land on your bed with the family, put a puzzle together, watch a movie and snack on popcorn, talk together, read a book together.  Chances are your family members miss you too.

6.) Exercise and take care of your body.  Do leg and foot exercises to help prevent blood clots and to help your body in general.  Ask your doctor for a list of acceptable exercises you can do.  Get a prenatal massage.  Chances are there's someone in your area that makes house calls for prenatal massage.  Once you have the okay from the doc, give your massage therapist a call.  You won't regret it.

7.) Rest when you need it, but try to save majority of your sleep for night time.  Insomnia is easy to obtain when you are pregnant.  Aching muscles, being kicked in your ribs, having to pee lots, thinking about baby/ies all the time...yep, that would keep just about anybody awake.  But the best thing you can do is maintain a regular sleep cycle.  Nap during the day, let's be honest you may not get the chance to when babies arrive.  But make sure you keep on track with sleeping mostly at night. 

8.) Keep tabs on your emotions.  It's easy to get depressed or feel really down on bedrest.  Isolation.  Feeling helpless.  Having control over nothing.  We all feel it.  It's normal.  Just don't let it get in the way of remembering the reason why you are on bedrest.  You are protecting your babies and giving them the best chance they have to develop and have healthy bodies.  Babies born prior to 37 weeks can have a hard time breathing on their own, may not be able to nurse, may have long term problems like hearing and sight difficulties.  Taking it easy is not an easy or selfish thing.  It's giving your babies a chance to have the healthiest start possible.  If you feel really depressed, let your doctor and spouse know.  It's important to communicate your emotions.

I'm sure there's lots of other stuff to know, but I think I've said enough.  After a month of bedrest and prescriptions and being in and out of the hospital 4 times with preterm labor, I've made it to week 37 today.  My twins are officially full term.  It's been hard, but totally worth it.  Now, can somebody tell them it's okay to come out? 

Monday, December 3, 2012

Twin Tuesday III

Our Gender Reveal-  Part One:

Here's how we broke the news to our family that we were having a boy...make that two boys.  The day we found out we were pregnant with twin boys, we decided that we couldn't hold this news in very long.  So we worked it out that my side of the family would come up for dinner at a restaurant that night.  Before they arrived my husband and I drove around like crazy trying to get things together for the big surprise.
  Since we have two little girls that we would be telling at the same time, we wanted to get them something special.  So my husband and I went to Build-a-Bear.  We picked out two teddy bears and put blue shirts on them with a voice recording in each that said, "We love our baby boy".  Then we got two bundles of blue balloons.  We dropped these off at the restaurant with directions for the waitress to bring one bear and set of balloons out at dinner and the other bear and balloon set out at dessert.
  Family arrived, ordered, and out came dinner with the surprise gender reveal package #1.  My mom flipped.  She was sooooo excited. "A boy?!!!"  It's a boy, my husband and I winked at eachother.  Boy, if her reaction was that great about one boy we couldn't wait to see what it would be like about two!  My dad made it just in time to order dessert (he had to work late), when he saw the blue balloons upon walking in the restaurant he said, "All right!  We need another boy in the family".  Just as he sat down the other set of balloons and the bear was brought out.  My mom looked at me confused, "Wait, I thought we just...wait a minute!  Are you having twins?!?!?!"  YES!!!!  My mom literally screamed with excitement and got out of her seat jumping up and down (yes, in the middle of the restaurant!  And yes, I got most of it on video...would put it on youtube, but I don't want to expose my mom.  lol).  People at other tables had been watching this all unfold too, they congratulated us as well.  The staff at the restaurant were watching from around the corner and some of them had started crying.  Apparently, our surprise was a fun success for all!
  Our girls, meanwhile, a little confused by all the noise still loved their bears and hugged them all night long.  They now understand that mommy has 2 babies in her tummy, not just one and that they are going to be boys. 

Part Two:

  The next night, we got to do the reveal all over again with my husband's parents.  This time we switched things up a little.  We went to our favorite store, picked up blue receiving blankets, blue binkies, double mint gum, double stuffed oreos, twix, double packaged candybars, and a few other "twin" items.  I wrapped up the twin/double stuff in the blankets to make it look like a baby (I made two).  Then we went to the restaurant and gave one to the waiter with the instructions to bring it out during dinner. 
  Ironically, our server was a twin and watched with anticipation as my in-laws opened the baby package. "Blue blanket, I'm guessing it's a boy?" said my mother-in-law.  Yep.  Then she continued to open the bundle.  When she got to the twix bar, she asked, "Are you guys trying to tell us something?  Are there two in there?".  Yep.  Then we gave Grandpa the other bundle.  They were both tickled at the idea of twin boys.
It was fun to tell our family about our surprise double boy package this way.  There are lots of gender reveal ideas that I love, the cakes with the inside either pink or blue, gender colored balloons flying out of a box wrapped up with the question: Boy or Girl?, my friend from Sewing Our Life Together did a great postcard that was a scratch and reveal, with our girls we gave my parents toy blocks with the letters GIRL that they had to unscramble and I bought a onsie that said 100% girl.  Do you have any great Gender Reveal tips or ideas?  Feel free to share!